I was asleep or unconscious when it happened – does that mean it isn’t rape?
Rape can happen when the victim was unconscious or asleep. If somebody had sex with you while you were asleep or unconscious, then you didn’t give consent. And if you didn’t give consent, then it was rape.
I used to date the person who assaulted me – does that mean it isn’t rape?
It doesn’t matter whether the other person is your husband, a current boyfriend, an ex-boyfriend, a friend or a complete stranger, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve had sex in the past. If you didn’t give consent this time, it was rape.
Information on where to get help is available on our rape and sexual assault page.
I didn’t resist physically – does that mean it isn’t rape?
Freezing, or not reacting physically, is a really common response to sexual violence. People respond to an assault in different ways.
Just because you didn’t resist physically doesn’t mean it wasn’t rape – in fact, many victims make the good judgment that physical resistance would cause the attacker to become more violent. Lack of consent can be express (saying “no”) or it can be implied from the circumstances (for example, if you were under the legal age of consent, or if you had a mental incapacity, or if you were afraid to object because the perpetrator threatened you with serious physical injury).
Although it can feel as though your body has let you down, it has done what it can to keep you safe. Sexual violence against you is never your fault.
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